Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes About Feelings

Quotes about: Feelings

• Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Respect, Strong, Offering

• Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking it as a rejection, revive lifeless conversation, and even hear the feelings and needs expressed through silence.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Silence, Rejection, Empathy

• When we hear the other person's feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Common Humanity, Feelings, Needs

• To do this, you can bring in nothing from the past. So the more psychology you've studied, the harder it will be to empathize. The more you know the person, the harder it will be to empathize. Diagnoses and past experiences can instantly knock you off the board. This doesn't mean denying the past. Past experiences can stimulate what's alive in this moment. But are you present to what was alive then or what the person is feeling and needing in this moment?

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Mean, Past, Empathy

• Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Revenge, Ignorance, People

  Marshall B. Rosenberg (2005). “Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change Your World”, p.129, PuddleDancer Press

• I recommend allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before turning our attention to solutions or requests for relief. When we proceed too quickly to what people might be requesting, we may not convey our genuine interest in their feelings and needs; instead, they may get the impression that we're in a hurry to either be free of them or to fix their problem. Furthermore, an initial message is often like the tip of an iceberg; it may be followed by yet unexpressed, but related - and often more powerful - feelings.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Powerful, Opportunity, People

• Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Feelings, Labels, Demand

• Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Feelings

• What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Feelings, May

• Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Strong, Offering, Giving

• Have you ever been surfing? Imagine you're on your surfboard now, waiting for the big one to come. Get ready to get carried with that energy. Now, here it comes. That's empathy. No words - just being with that energy. When I connect with what's alive in another person, I have feelings similar to when I'm surfing.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Empathy, Waiting, Feelings

• The best way I can get understanding from another person is to give this person the understanding, too. If I want them to hear my needs and feelings, I first need to empathize.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Giving, Empathy, Understanding

• NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Empathy, Feelings

• In nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Then we may wish to reflect back, paraphrasing what we have understood. We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Opportunity, Empathy

• Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Mean, Self, Empathy

• To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Empathy, Feelings, Needs

• When we listen for their feelings and needs, we no longer see people as monsters.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Feelings

• As soon as you say, "are you feeling X because I ..." Then the Jackal starts to salivate because he can educate the person that he's the cause of his pain.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Pain, Communication, Feelings

• Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Silence, Feelings

• If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Pain, Communication, People

• In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Feelings, Needs

• Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Pain, Communication, Feelings

• When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

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  Feelings, Needs, Slave

• When we listen for feelings and needs - we can see that people who seem like monsters are simply human beings whose language and behavior sometimes keep us from seeing their humanness.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  People, Feelings, Monsters

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