David D. Burns Quotes - Page 2

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• You're human. You'll screw up. Denying that is crazy. Forgiving yourself has all the benefits of self-esteem without making you a narcissist that's out of touch with reality.

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  Crazy, Self Esteem, Reality

  Source: time.com

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• That's one of the peculiar things about bad moods - we often fool ourselves and create misery by telling ourselves things that simply are not true.

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  Stupid, Peculiar, Bad Mood

  David D. Burns (1999). “The Feeling Good Handbook”, Plume Books

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• Forgiving yourself, not guilt, increases personal accountability.

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  Personal Accountability, Forgiving, Guilt

  Source: time.com

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• Perfectionism becomes a badge of honor with you playing the part of the suffering hero.

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  Hero, Honor, Suffering

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• Despite their differences, pride, shame, and guilt all activate similar neural circuits, including the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex, amygdala, insula, and the nucleus accumbens. Interestingly, pride is the most powerful of these emotions at triggering activity in these regions - except in the nucleus accumbens, where guilt and shame win out. This explains why it can be so appealing to heap guilt and shame on ourselves - they're activating the brain's reward center.

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  Powerful, Pride, Winning

  Source: time.com

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• When two people respect each other, the ability to be vulnerable and to reveal hurt feelings can create a powerful emotional connection that is the source of real intimacy and friendship.

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  Hurt, Powerful, Real

  David D. Burns (1999). “The Feeling Good Handbook”, Plume Books

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• It's irrational to assume you can ever truly evaluate yourself as a good or bad human being. You will never have enough information.That "bad person" at work who torments you might be an excellent father to his kids. That other "bad person" at work who screwed up royally today? That error might later lead to a huge breakthrough. We will never have enough info to holistically evaluate a person and score them in totality as "bad" or "good."

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  Father, Kids, Errors

  Source: time.com

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• What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner. It won't speed your learning processes so as to reduce the chance you'll make the same mistake in the future. Other people won't love and respect you more because you are feeling guilty and putting yourself down in this manner. Nor will your guilt lead to productive living. So what's the point?

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  Mistake, People, Feelings

  Source: time.com

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• Regret has a purpose. It's like the oil light on the dashboard of your life, telling you something needs to be fixed. So fix it. And feel better.

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  Regret, Feel Better, Light

  Source: time.com

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• More often than not, the belief that you are bad contributes to the "bad" behavior. Change and learning occur most readily when you (a) recognize that an error has occurred and (b) develop a strategy for correcting the problem. An attitude of self-love and relaxation facilitates this, whereas guilt often interferes.

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  Attitude, Errors, Behavior Change

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• If a hungry lion suddenly appeared, you'd be terrified. So terrified you'd probably run away. Great, fear's doing its job. But you might get so afraid that you lock up and can't move. This would be very bad. Guilt's the same. It can prevent you from fixing the situation, make you feel so bad you can't function at 100% and even lead to more guilt-provoking bad behavior.

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  Running, Jobs, Moving

  Source: time.com

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• Negative thinking patterns can be immensely deceptive and persuasive, and change is rarely easy. But with patience and persistence, I believe that nearly all individuals suffering from depression can improve and experience a sense of joy and self-esteem once again.

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  Self Esteem, Believe, Persistence

  David D. Burns, M.D. (2013). “Ten Days to Self-Esteem: The Leader's Manual”, p.13, Harper Collins

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• People who expect to feel guilty tend to be more sympathetic, to put themselves into other people's shoes, to think about the consequences of their behaviour before acting, and to treasure their morals. As a result they are less prone to lie, cheat or behave immorally when they conduct a business deal or spot an opportunity to make money, studies suggest. They are also likely to make better employees because people who think less about the future results of their actions are more likely to be late, to steal or to be rude to clients.

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  Lying, Opportunity, Thinking

  Source: time.com

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• It can be helpful simply to make a written or mental list of the things you do each day. Then give yourself a mental credit for each of them, however small. This will help you focus on what you have done instead of what you haven't gotten around to do. It may sound simplistic, but it works.

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  Giving, Focus, Sound

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Depression has been called the worlds number one public health problem. In fact, depression is so widespread it is considered the common cold of psychiatric disturbances. But there is a grim difference between depression and a cold. Depression can kill you.

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  Differences, Numbers, World

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Reaching for the stars, perfectionists may end up clutching air. They suffer from mood disorders, troubled relationships, and stress. They may even achieve less than others.

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  Stars, Stress, Air

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• Learning to accept failure on multiple levels is, to my way of thinking, the key to become a world-class therapist. But that means humility, and setting your ego aside, while you develop superb new technical skills.

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  Mean, Humility, Thinking

  "Answers to Questions from a Psychology Today Blogger". feelinggood.com. October 24, 2013.

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• Reaching for the stars, perfectionists may end up clutching at air.

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  Stars, Air, May

  "14 Signs Your Perfectionism Has Gotten Out Of Control" by Carolyn Gregoire, www.huffingtonpost.com. November 6, 2013.

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• Powerful new drug-free treatments have been developed for depression and for every conceivable type of anxiety, such as chronic worrying, shyness, public speaking anxiety, test anxiety, phobias, and panic attacks. The goal of the treatment is not just partial improvement but full recovery.

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  Powerful, Recovery, Worry

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• People who are prone to guilt tend to work harder and perform better than people who are not guilt-prone, and are perceived to be more capable leaders.

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  Hard Work, People, Leader

  Source: time.com

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• Guilt serves a powerful social function in terms of policing our behavior.

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  Powerful, Guilt, Behavior

  Source: time.com

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• Guilt is not the best way to remedy your mistakes.

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  Mistake, Guilt, Way

  Source: time.com

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