Eric Berne Quotes

• The destiny of every human being is decided by what goes on inside his skull when confronted by what goes on outside his skull.

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  Destiny, Skulls, Goes On

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• Awareness requires living in the here and now, and not in the elsewhere, the past or the future.

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  Past, Awareness, Here And Now

  Eric Berne (2011). “Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis”, p.156, Tantor eBooks

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• Each person designs his own life, freedom gives him the power to carry out his own designs, and power gives the freedom to interfere with the designs of others.

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  Giving, Design, Persons

  Eric Berne (2010). “What Do You Say After You Say Hello”, p.51, Random House

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• Each person decides in early childhood how he will live and how he will die... His trivial behavior may be decided by reason, but his important decisions have already been made: what kind of person he will marry, how many children he will have, what kind of bed he will die in... It is incredible to think, at first, that man's fate, all his nobility and all his degradation, is decided by a child no more than six years old, and usually three... (but) it is very easy to believe by looking at what is happening in the world today, and what happened yesterday, and seeing what will happen tomorrow.

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  Children, Believe, Fate

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• Love is nature's psychotherapy.

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  Love, Love Is, Psychotherapy

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• A healthy person goes 'Yes,' 'No,' and 'Whoopee!' An unhealthy person goes 'Yes, but,' 'No, but,' and 'No whoopee.

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  Health, Persons, Healthy

  "They Shoot Managers, Don't They?: Managing Yourself and Leading Others in a Changing World". Book by Terry L. Paulson, p. 3, 1991.

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• A loser doesn't know what he'll do if he loses, but talks about what he'll do if he wins, and a winner doesn't talk about what he'll do if he wins, but knows what he'll do if he loses.

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  Inspirational, Failure, Winning

  Eric Berne (2010). “What Do You Say After You Say Hello”, p.235, Random House

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• The moment a little boy is concerned with which is a jay and which is a sparrow, he can no longer see the birds or hear them sing.

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  Nature, Boys, Equality

  ERIC BERNE, M.D. (1964). “GAMES PEOPLE PLAY”

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• Awareness means the capacity to see a coffeepot and hear the birds sing in one's own way and not the way one was taught.

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  Mean, Bird, Way

  Joan Halifax, Eric Berne (1967). “The Fruitful Darkness: A Journey Through Buddhist Practice and Tribal Wisdom”, Grove Pr

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• We are born princes and the civilizing process makes us frogs.

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  Sad, Knowing Who You Are, Civilization

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• Games are a compromise between intimacy and keeping intimacy away.

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  Gambling, Games, Compromise

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• It is better to be a slave to your beloved woman than a free man to the unloved one.

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  Men, Beloved, Slave

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• The eternal problem of the human being is how to structure his waking hours

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  Waking, Problem, Hours

  Eric Berne (1977). “Games people play: the psychology of human relationships”

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• A winner fulfills his contract with the world and with himself. That is, he sets out to do something, says that he is committed to doing it, and in the long run does it.

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  Running, Long, Doe

  Eric Berne (2010). “What Do You Say After You Say Hello”, p.234, Random House

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• Some say that one-sided love is better than none, but like half a loaf of bread, it is likely to grow hard and moldy sooner.

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  Love Is, Half, Bread

  Eric Berne (2011). “Sex in Human Loving”, Tantor eBooks

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• No man is a hero to his wife's psychiatrist.

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  Hero, Men, Wife

  Eric Berne (2011). “Sex in Human Loving”, Tantor eBooks

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• Whatever you do, think of next morning's headlines.

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  Life, Morning, Thinking

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• Losers spend time explaining why they lost. Losers spend their lives thinking about what they're going to do. They rarely enjoy doing what they're doing.

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  Thinking, Loser, Lost

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• Every man must, in a measure, be alone in the world. No heart was ever cast in the same mould as that which we bear within us.

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  Heart, Men, Bears

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• Human life [is] ... a process of filling in time until the arrival of death, or Santa Claus, with very little choice, if any, of what kind of business one is going to transact during the long wait.

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  Life, Long, Waiting

  'Games People Play' (1964) ch. 18

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• Such a woman is called "Mother's FRIEND" always ready to give judicious Parental advice and living vicariously on the experience of others

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  Mother, Giving, Advice

  Eric Berne (2011). “Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis”, p.78, Tantor eBooks

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