David D. Burns Quotes

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• Assert your right to make a few mistakes. If people can't accept your imperfections, that's their fault.

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  Mistake, Failure, Acceptance

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• You feel the way you do right now because of the thoughts you are thinking at this moment.

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  Thinking, Way, Moments

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• After all, this is how you learned how to walk. You didn't just jump up from your crib one day and waltz gracefully across the room. You stumbled and fell on your face and got up and tried again. At what age are you suddenly expected to know everything and never make any more mistakes? If you can love and respect yourself in failure, worlds of adventure and new experiences will open up before you, and your fears will vanish.

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  Love, Mistake, Adventure

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• Perfection' is man's ultimate illusion. It simply doesn't exist in the universe.... If you are a perfectionist, you are guaranteed to be a loser in whatever you do.

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  Success, Men, Perfection

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• Every time you feel depressed about something, try to identify a corresponding negative thought you had just prior to and during the depression. Because these thoughts have actually created your bad mood, by learning to restructure them, you can change your mood.

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  Depression, Trying, Bad Mood

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• The best way to confront your fears it to stop avoiding the situation you're most afraid of.

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  Way, Situation, Avoiding

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• A poor self-image is the magnifying glass that can transform a trivial mistake or an imperfection into an overwhelming symbol of personal defeat.

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  Mistake, Glasses, Self

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Forgive yourself and be ready to forgive yourself in the future. You're gonna screw up. It's okay.

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  Forgiving, Screw Ups, Forgive Yourself

  Source: time.com

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• Confronting your fears and allowing yourself the right to be human can, paradoxically, make you a far happier and more productive person.

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  Fear, Perfection, Humans

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• Cognitive therapy is based on the idea that when you change the way you think, you can change the way you feel and behave. In other words, if we can learn to think about other people in a more positive and realistic way, it will be far easier to resolve conflicts and develop rewarding personal and professional relationships.

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  Thinking, Ideas, People

  "Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work". Book by David D. Burns, 2008.

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• The biggest mistake you can make in trying to talk convincingly is to put your highest priority on expressing your ideas and feelings. What most people really want is to be listened to, respected, and understood. The moment people see that they are being understood, they become more motivated to understand your point of view.

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  Mistake, Views, Ideas

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• You're not a bad person. But you sometimes do bad things. You know what that makes you? Human.

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  Sometimes, Humans, Persons

  Source: time.com

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• Can you predict the future with absolute certainty? Your answer must be no. You have two options: You can either decide to accept yourself as an imperfect human being with limited knowledge and realize that you will at times make mistakes, or you can hate yourself for it.

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  Hate, Mistake, Two

  Source: time.com

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• Kindness is the cause of all anxiety.

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  Kindness, Anxiety, Causes

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• You don't have to do anything especially worthy to create or deserve self-esteem; all you have to do is turn off that critical, haranguing, inner voice.

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  Self Esteem, Voice, Worthy

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Learn to accept your limits and you'll become a happier person.

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  Limits, Accepting, Persons

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Accept yourself. But realize your behaviors can be bad.

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  Realizing, Behavior, Accepting Yourself

  Source: time.com

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• If you're self-compassionate, you'll tend to have higher self-esteem than if you're endlessly self-critical. And like high self-esteem - self-compassion is associated with significantly less anxiety and depression, as well as more happiness, optimism, and positive emotions.

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  Self Esteem, Compassion, Optimism

  Source: time.com

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• Surprisingly, it's forgiveness, not guilt, that increases accountability. Researchers have found that taking a self-compassionate point of view on a personal failure makes people more likely to take personal responsibility for the failure than when they take a self-critical point of view. They also are more willing to receive feedback and advice from others, and more likely to learn from the experience.

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  Responsibility, Self, Views

  Source: time.com

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• What sentence will you choose to impose on yourself? Are you willing to stop suffering and making yourself miserable when your sentence has expired? This would at least be a responsible way to punish yourself because it would be time-limited.

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  Suffering, Would Be, Way

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

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• Guilt doesn't help. What should fill in for it? Remorse. Remorse is when you feel bad about what you did. Guilt is when you feel bad about who you are.

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  Guilt, Helping, Should

  Source: time.com

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• Practically everybody knows what its like to feel anxious, worried, nervous, afraid, uptight, or panicky. Often, anxiety is just a nuisance, but sometimes it can cripple you and prevent you from doing what you really want with your life. But I have some great news for you: You can change the way you feel.

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  Anxiety, Nuisance, Uptight

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• Apologies do make a difference. Believe it or not, research shows people often prefer them over money.

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  Believe, Apology, Differences

  Source: time.com

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• When we're rational about rule-breaking we set a limit. You don't get 30 years in prison for a traffic ticket. But sometimes you sentence yourself to months or years of emotional pain over minor offenses.

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  Pain, Emotional, Years

  Source: time.com

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• You're human. You'll screw up. Denying that is crazy. Forgiving yourself has all the benefits of self-esteem without making you a narcissist that's out of touch with reality.

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  Crazy, Self Esteem, Reality

  Source: time.com

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