David D. Burns Quotes About Guilt

Quotes about: Guilt

• Surprisingly, it's forgiveness, not guilt, that increases accountability. Researchers have found that taking a self-compassionate point of view on a personal failure makes people more likely to take personal responsibility for the failure than when they take a self-critical point of view. They also are more willing to receive feedback and advice from others, and more likely to learn from the experience.

  David D. Burns

  Responsibility, Self, Views

  Source: time.com

• People who are prone to guilt tend to work harder and perform better than people who are not guilt-prone, and are perceived to be more capable leaders.

  David D. Burns

  Hard Work, People, Leader

  Source: time.com

• If a hungry lion suddenly appeared, you'd be terrified. So terrified you'd probably run away. Great, fear's doing its job. But you might get so afraid that you lock up and can't move. This would be very bad. Guilt's the same. It can prevent you from fixing the situation, make you feel so bad you can't function at 100% and even lead to more guilt-provoking bad behavior.

  David D. Burns

  Running, Jobs, Moving

  Source: time.com

• More often than not, the belief that you are bad contributes to the "bad" behavior. Change and learning occur most readily when you (a) recognize that an error has occurred and (b) develop a strategy for correcting the problem. An attitude of self-love and relaxation facilitates this, whereas guilt often interferes.

  David D. Burns

  Attitude, Errors, Behavior Change

  David D. Burns (1980). “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy”

• What is the point of abusing yourself with guilt in the first place? If you did make a mistake and act in a hurtful way, your guilt won't reverse your blunder in some magical manner. It won't speed your learning processes so as to reduce the chance you'll make the same mistake in the future. Other people won't love and respect you more because you are feeling guilty and putting yourself down in this manner. Nor will your guilt lead to productive living. So what's the point?

  David D. Burns

  Mistake, People, Feelings

  Source: time.com

• Guilt doesn't help. What should fill in for it? Remorse. Remorse is when you feel bad about what you did. Guilt is when you feel bad about who you are.

  David D. Burns

  Guilt, Helping, Should

  Source: time.com

• Despite their differences, pride, shame, and guilt all activate similar neural circuits, including the dorsomedial prefrontal cortex, amygdala, insula, and the nucleus accumbens. Interestingly, pride is the most powerful of these emotions at triggering activity in these regions - except in the nucleus accumbens, where guilt and shame win out. This explains why it can be so appealing to heap guilt and shame on ourselves - they're activating the brain's reward center.

  David D. Burns

  Powerful, Pride, Winning

  Source: time.com

• Guilt is not the best way to remedy your mistakes.

  David D. Burns

  Mistake, Guilt, Way

  Source: time.com

• Guilt serves a powerful social function in terms of policing our behavior.

  David D. Burns

  Powerful, Guilt, Behavior

  Source: time.com

• Forgiving yourself, not guilt, increases personal accountability.

  David D. Burns

  Personal Accountability, Forgiving, Guilt

  Source: time.com

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