John Bradshaw Quotes

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• Guilt says I've done something wrong; ... shame says there is something wrong with me. Guilt says I've made a mistake; ... shame says I am a mistake. Guilt says what did was not good; ... shame says I am no good.

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  Mistake, Umpires, Guilt

  John Bradshaw (1988). “Bradshaw On--The Family: A Revolutionary Way of Self-Discovery”, Hci

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• It's okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are our teachers -- they help us to learn.

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  Education, Teacher, Mistake

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• We cannot heal what we cannot feel.

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  Heal, Feels

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.54, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Shame is the root of all addictions.

  John Bradshaw

  Roots, Addiction, Shame

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• We move from the illusion of certainty, to the certainty of illusion

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  Inspirational, Moving, Illusion

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child”, p.59, Bantam

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• Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’

  John Bradshaw

  Pain, Sadness, Healing

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.78, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Arrogance is a way for a person to cover up shame. After years of arrogance, the arrogant person is so out of touch, she truly doesn't know who she is. This is one of the greatest tragedies of shame cover-ups: not only does the person hide from others, she also hides from herself.

  John Bradshaw

  Arrogant Person, Years, Arrogance

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.123, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking about our pain.

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  Love, Soulmate, Pain

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• The more we know about how we lost our spontaneous wonder and creativity, the more we can find ways to get them back.

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  Lost Love, Creativity, Frustrated

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child”, p.5, Bantam

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• I believe that this neglected, wounded, inner child of the past is the major source of human misery.

  John Bradshaw

  Children, Believe, Past

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child”, p.7, Bantam

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• All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble.

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  Feelings, Storm, Needs

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child”, p.80, Bantam

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• To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality.

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  Honesty, Reality, Discipline

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.29, Health Communications, Inc.

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• I have never met an aggressive person who wasn’t a fearful person.

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  Mets, Aggressive, Fearful

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• Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are.

  John Bradshaw

  Self, Knowing Who You Are, Opinion

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.28, Health Communications, Inc.

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• It is a mark of soulfulness to be present in the here and now. When we are present, we are not fabricating inner movies. We are seeing what is before us.

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  Artist, Mark, Here And Now

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Creating Love: A New Way of Understanding Our Most Important Relationships”, p.127, Bantam

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• Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.

  John Bradshaw

  Children, Self, Discipline

  "Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline". Book by John Bradshaw, 1994.

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• Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were.

  John Bradshaw

  Emotional, Knowing, Way

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.31, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Our beliefs create the kind of world we believe in. We project our feelings, thoughts and attitudes onto the world. I can create a different world by changing my belief about the world. Our inner state creates the outer and not vice versa.

  John Bradshaw

  Attitude, Believe, Feelings

  John Bradshaw (1996). “Bradshaw On: The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem”, p.246, Health Communications, Inc.

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• True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else’s love, it’s generally because it is a counterfeit form of love.

  John Bradshaw

  Spiritual, Growth, Form

  John Bradshaw (1988). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.154, Health Communications, Inc.

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• The drivenness in any addiction is about the ruptured self, the belief that one is flawed as a person. The content of the addiction, whether it is alcoholism or work, is an attempt at an intimate relationship. The workaholic with her work or the alcoholic with his booze are having a love affair. Each alters mood to avoid the feeling of loneliness and hurt in the underbelly of shame.

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  Hurt, Loneliness, Intimate Relationships

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• Chronically dysfunctioning families are also delusional. Delusion is sincere denial.

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  Denial, Sincere, Delusional

  John Bradshaw (1996). “Bradshaw On: The Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem”, p.88, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive.

  John Bradshaw

  Powerful, Feelings, Way

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.124, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Children are curious and are risk takers. They have lots of courage. They venture out into a world that is immense and dangerous. A child initially trusts life and the processes of life.

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  Children, Risk, World

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Creating Love: A New Way of Understanding Our Most Important Relationships”, p.115, Bantam

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• To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.

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  Mean, Feelings, Needs

  John Bradshaw (2010). “Healing the Shame that Binds You”, p.32, Health Communications, Inc.

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• Children are natural Zen masters; their world is brand new in each and every moment.

  John Bradshaw

  Relationship, Children, Reality

  John Bradshaw (2013). “Homecoming: Reclaiming and Healing Your Inner Child”, p.55, Bantam

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