Merle Shain Quotes

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• There are really only two ways to approach life - as victim or as gallant fighter - and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.

  Merle Shain

  Inspirational, Life, Play

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• Loving can cost a lot but not loving always cost more.

  Merle Shain

  Inspirational, Fear, Unrequited Love

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• The job of a friend is not to decide what should be done, not to run interference or pick up the slack. The job of a friend is to understand, and to supply energy and hope, and in doing so to keep those they value on their feet a little longer, so that they can fight another round and grow strong in themselves.

  Merle Shain

  Friends, Running, Strong

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• The answer doesn't lie in learning how to protect ourselves from life-it lies in learning how to become strong enough to let a bit more of it in.

  Merle Shain

  Life, Strong, Lying

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• The people in your life are like the pillars on your porch.
  Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you.
  Sometimes it's enough to know they are standing by.

  Merle Shain

  People, Pillars, Sometimes

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• Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

  Merle Shain

  Love, Fear, Heart

  "Some Men are More Perfect Than Others". Book by Merle Shain, 1973.

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• One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you, and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.

  Merle Shain

  Past, Life Is, Never Change

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• Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same

  Merle Shain

  Mean, Loving Someone, Different

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• If there are no endings, there are no beginnings and you see no new lands, so for everything that's lost, there is usually something gained.

  Merle Shain

  Land, Lost, Beginnings And Endings

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds of forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages - and love affairs, as well - is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them as a person rather than taking away.

  Merle Shain

  Marriage, Commitment, Soul

  "Some Men are More Perfect Than Others". Book by Merle Shain, 1973.

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• One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.

  Merle Shain

  Cancer, Adversity, Learning

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• The conflict between what one is and who one is expected to be touches all of us. And sometimes, rather than reach for what one could be, we choose the comfort of the failed role, preferring to be the victim of circumstance, the person who didn't have a chance.

  Merle Shain

  Comfort, Roles, Chance

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• Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself. If you don't have friends you see much less than you otherwise might.

  Merle Shain

  Friendship, World, Might

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• Anger is a passion, so it makes people feel alive and makes them feel they matter and are in charge of their lives. So people often need to renew their anger a long time after the cause of it has died, because it is a protection against helplessness and emptiness just like howling in the night. And it makes them feel less vulnerable for a little while.

  Merle Shain

  Anger, Passion, Night

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• The romantic myth is so strong that it survives the wear and tear of marriage by simply detaching from it and floating up on ahead, and women who are rather fond of the men they married, as well as ones who are not, go through life with a bag packed for the day when the shining knight on a white charger arrives, just in case he does.

  Merle Shain

  Strong, Men, White

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• Life is like fording a river, stepping from one slippery stone to another, and you must rejoice every time you don't lose your balance, and learn to laugh at all the times you do.

  Merle Shain

  Rivers, Laughing, Balance

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• Our strength is in our dreams, and those who do not dare to dream damn themselves.

  Merle Shain

  Dream, Strong, Destiny

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• Sex deepens love and love deepens sex, so physical intimacy transforms everything and playing with it is playing with fire.

  Merle Shain

  Sex, Deep Love, Fire

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be.

  Merle Shain

  People, Helping, Persons

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• The day you spend hoping, the day you spend waiting, the day you spend in despair, is a day in your life as much as the tomorrow you hope for, but which may never come, so betting today on tomorrow is always a bad bet.

  Merle Shain

  Waiting, Live In The Moment, Despair

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• The roots of love sink down and deep and strike out far, and they are arteries that feed our lives, so we must see that they get the water and sun they need so they can nourish us. And when you put something good into the world, something good comes back to you.

  Merle Shain

  Love, Roots, Water

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• Girls gave sex to get love and boys gave love to get sex and conning girls was the favorite indoor sport.

  Merle Shain

  Girl, Sports, Sex

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• There are problems connected with infidelity and problems connected with being faithful at any cost, and I am for letting those concerned choose the problems they'd prefer. There need not be one rule for all. Infidelity is enlarging and fragmenting and very very dangerous, but it has been known to retrieve people as well as marriages, so it can't be only bad.

  Merle Shain

  People, Faithful, Infidelity

  "Some Men are More Perfect Than Others". Book by Merle Shain, 1973.

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• Feelings take you into uncharted territory from time to time it's true, but you almost always benefit from the journey one way or the other. We tend to think of the rational as a higher order, but it is the emotional that marks our lives.

  Merle Shain

  Journey, Emotional, Thinking

  Merle Shain (1973). “Some Men Are More Perfect Than Others”

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• One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you.

  Merle Shain

  Healing, Past, Never Change

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