Nonviolent Communication Quotes - Page 3

• We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves. As author and mythologist Joseph Campbell suggested, "'What will they think of me?' must be put aside for bliss." We begin to feel this bliss when messages previously experienced as critical or blaming begin to be seen for the gifts they are: opportunities to give to people who are in pain.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Pain, Opportunity, Thinking

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• Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Self, Judgment

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• If we don't change direction soon, we'll end up where we're going.

  Irwin Corey

  Change, History, Ends

  "Who Am the World's Foremost Authority? A Lesson from Professor Irwin Corey" by Jim Kniphel, www.nypress.com. January 13, 2001.

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• If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Cutting, Suffering

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• There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Real, Communication, Two

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• However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Practice, May

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• If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Punishment, Two

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• Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Feelings

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• If we want to make meetings productive, we need to keep track of those whose requests are on the table.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Track, Tables

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• Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Needs

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• The number one reason that we don't get our needs met, we don't express them. We express judgments. If we do express needs, the number two reasons we don't our needs met, we don't make clear requests.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Two, Numbers

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• The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Criticism

  Marshall B. Rosenberg (2004). “Teaching Children Compassionately: How Students and Teachers Can Succeed with Mutual Understanding”, p.5, PuddleDancer Press

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• The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Compassion, Self

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• Marshall Rosenberg has a genius for developing and teaching practical skills urgently needed for a less violent, more caring world.

  Riane Eisler

  Communication, Teaching, Caring

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• Speak Peace sums up decades of healing and peacework. It would be hard to list all the kinds of people who can benefit from reading this book, because it's really any and all of us.

  Michael N. Nagler

  Book, Communication, Reading

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• Speak Peace is a book that comes at an appropriate time when anger and violence dominates human attitudes. Marshall Rosenberg gives us the means to create peace through our speech and communication. A brilliant book.

  Arun Manilal Gandhi

  Attitude, Book, Communication

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• Don't do anything that isn't play

  Joseph Campbell

  Communication, Play

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• Never do anything that isn't play.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Play

  Marshall B. Rosenberg (2004). “Getting Past the Pain Between Us: Healing and Reconciliation Without Compromise”, p.24, PuddleDancer Press

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• Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Expression, Criticism, Needs

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• In these long-standing conflicts, I find that most cases it gets resolved in about twenty minutes after each side can tell me the needs of the other.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Long, Twenties

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• All people ever say is: THANK YOU (a celebration of life) and PLEASE (an opportunity to make life more wonderful).

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Opportunity, People

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• Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. When we really listen to people there is an alternating current, and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other. We are constantly being re-created.

  Brenda Ueland

  Tired, Listening To Others, People

  Brenda Ueland (1993). “Strength to Your Sword Arm: Selected Writings”, Holy Cow Press

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• Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Anger, Expression

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• Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Needs, Demand

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• Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication

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