Nonviolent Communication Quotes

• All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Encouragement, Pain, Believe

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• Instead of playing the game "Making Life Wonderful", we often play the game called "Who's Right". Do you know that game? It's a game where everybody loses.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Games, Play

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• I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

  Virginia Satir

  Appreciate, Judging, Judgement

  Virginia Satir (1976). “Making Contact”

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• When we hear the other person's feelings and needs, we recognize our common humanity.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Common Humanity, Feelings, Needs

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• I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Worry, Response

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• When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Enemy, Needs

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• If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, People, Needs

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• Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Revenge, Ignorance, People

  Marshall B. Rosenberg (2005). “Speak Peace in a World of Conflict: What You Say Next Will Change Your World”, p.129, PuddleDancer Press

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• Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Responsibility, Criticism

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• While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Hurt, Pain, Communication

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• Usually a person relates to another under the tacit assumption thatthe other shares his view of reality, that indeed there is only onereality.

  Paul Watzlawick

  Reality, Views, Assumption

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• Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Effort, Doe

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• What I want in my life is compassion
  a flow between myself and others
  based on mutual giving from the heart.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Heart, Compassion, Giving

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• We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Satisfaction, Looks

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• I don't think you can have an authentic connection when one person is diagnosing the other.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Thinking, Connections

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• All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Needs, Action

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• Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, World, Way

  Marshall B. Rosenberg (2004). “The Heart of Social Change: How to Make a Difference in Your World”, p.6, PuddleDancer Press

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• Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Judging People, Violence

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• Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Differences, Needs

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• Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Solutions

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• NO is always a YES to something else.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication

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• The only sensible person is my tailor. He measures me anew each time he sees me.

  George Bernard Shaw

  Communication, Tailors, Sensible

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• The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, May, Behavior

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• We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Enormous, Consequence

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• A need is life seeking expression within us.

  Marshall B. Rosenberg

  Communication, Expression, Needs

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