Andrew Solomon Quotes About Children

Quotes about: Children

• If some glorious angel suddenly descended through my living room ceiling and offered to take away the children I have and give me other, better children — more polite, funnier, nicer, smarter — I would cling to the children I have and pray away that atrocious spectacle.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Angel, Giving

• Labeling a child's mind as diseased-whether with autism, intellectual disabilities, or transgenderism-may reflect the discomfort that mind gives parents more than any discomfort it causes their child. Much gets corrected that might better have been left alone.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Giving, Autism

  Andrew Solomon (2014). “Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity”, p.4, Simon and Schuster

• Parenthood abruptly catapults us into a permanent relationship with a stranger, and the more alien the stranger, the stronger the whiff of negativity. We depend on the guarantee in our children's faces that we will not die. Children whose defining quality annihilates that fantasy of immortality are a particular insult; we must love them for themselves, and not for the best of ourselves in them, and that is a great deal harder to do. Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Exercise, Imagination

  Andrew Solomon (2014). “Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity”, p.1, Simon and Schuster

• I think it's up to the parents to determine whether what they're doing is consigning their child to difficulty. It's not as though they were crippling their children after they were born.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Thinking, Parent

  Source: www.spiegel.de

• In coming to an appreciation of the Mormon Church, one of the things that has been most compelling to me is the Mormon understanding of family, which extends beyond the general injunction to be fruitful and multiply, and addresses the permanence of love relationships into eternity, and embraces the sanctity of having children.

  Andrew Solomon

  Appreciation, Children, Understanding

  Source: andrewsolomon.com

• All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Self, Parent

• With children who have never said a word, parents tend to assume, for better or for worse, that there isn't any language there.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Parent, Assuming

• One has to weigh all of one's values always in relative terms. On the upside, you get people who are not acting on their homosexual attraction, who are avoiding the sin of practicing homosexuality. On the downside, you have destroyed marriages, traumatized children, and dead people who have taken their own lives.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Taken, People

  Source: andrewsolomon.com

• I had always wanted to have children, so it caused me a lot of grief when I was younger, and I had supposed that gay people could not be parents.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Grief, Gay

• Being in a marriage and having children is the greatest pleasure, but it is certainly not the easiest pleasure. It is not like eating ice cream.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Ice Cream, Eating

  Source: andrewsolomon.com

• Loving our own children is an exercise for the imagination.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Exercise, Imagination

  Andrew Solomon (2014). “Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity”, p.1, Simon and Schuster

• I spent years thinking I had to make a choice between being true to myself and being with a man and not having a family, and trying to live something of a lie and being with a woman and having children.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Lying, Men

• The world changed, and the idea of having a family became feasible for homosexuals. But I was still left with the question as to what it would be like for a child to grow up with gay parents.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Growing Up, Gay

• Parenthood always involves recognizing your child as separate and different from you.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Different, Parenthood

  Source: www.spiegel.de

• I felt like all of the work was training for just one central idea: Accept your child for who he is. I'm not saying that I've done a brilliant job with that. But I've done my best.

  Andrew Solomon

  Jobs, Children, Ideas

• I would certainly not want my child to be schizophrenic. I wouldn't want him or her to be a criminal either. If, on the other hand, I had a deaf child, it would help that I have developed a real admiration for Deaf culture.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Real, Hands

  Source: www.spiegel.de

• I grew up feeling that to be gay was a tragedy. I didn't grow up thinking that it was morally wrong, but I grew up thinking that it would make me marginal, prevent me from having children, and quite possibly prevent me from having a meaningful long relationship. It seemed that this condition would leave me with a vastly reduced life.

  Andrew Solomon

  Meaningful, Children, Growing Up

  Source: andrewsolomon.com

• If someone says: "I don't want to have a cochlear implant, because I want my child to grow up with a rich sense of deaf culture," he must acknowledge that the deaf culture that exists in the world today has a different scale than the deaf culture that's likely to exist in the world 50 years from now.

  Andrew Solomon

  Children, Growing Up, Years

  Source: www.spiegel.de

• I've chronicled the experience of the mother of a transgender child who got attacked by the Ku Klux Klan in Tennessee, and that of a transgender woman who was asked to deliver a sermon at her Montana church and got a standing ovation from her congregation. The idea that Christianity is a blanket term that encompasses both of those attitudes seems ludicrous to me.

  Andrew Solomon

  Mother, Children, Attitude

  Source: andrewsolomon.com

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