Harriet Lerner Quotes About Fighting

Quotes about: Fighting

• Request an apology when you believe you deserve one, but don't get in a tug of war about it. Instead, be a role model and tender a genuine apology yourself when an apology is due. Your willingness to apologize can be contagious and models maturity for your partner. Also, your non-apologizing partner may use a nonverbal way to reconnect after a fight, defuse the tension, or show you he's in a new place and wants to repair a disconnection. Accept the olive branch however it's offered.

  Harriet Lerner

  War, Believe, Apology

  "Waiting For An Apology? Don’t Hold Your Breath" by Harriet Lerner, www.huffingtonpost.com. January 5, 2012.

• It's remarkable how many couples can precisely describe their particular pattern of painful fighting, and claim to be helpless to change it.

  Harriet Lerner

  Couple, Fighting, Patterns

• Marriage is the lightning rod that absorbs anxiety and stress from all other sources, past and present. When marriage has a firm foundation of solid friendship and mutual respect, it can tolerate a fair amount of raw emotion. A good fight can clear the air, and it's nice to know we can survive conflict and even learn from it. Many couples, however, get trapped in endless rounds of fighting and blaming that they don't know how to get out of. When fights go unchecked and unrepaired, they can eventually erode love and respect, which are the bedrock of any successful relationship.

  Harriet Lerner

  Couple, Nice, Stress

  FaceBook post by Harriet Lerner from Nov 14, 2013

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