Abusers Quotes

• I just let the work speak for itself. An actor is not afraid to take risks; to put on different hats; to be a good guy, a bad guy, a victim, an abuser. There are all kinds of people in the world, and playing them is what acting is all about.

  Kevin Bacon

  People, Guy, Risk

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• I wanted to write something from a child's viewpoint... Five of the characters I have played in movies have either been abused or became abusers, themselves, and I just kind of felt like there was a need.

  Meg Tilly

  Movie, Children, Writing

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• To my abusers: I forgive you.

  Pattie Mallette

  Forgiving, I Forgive You

  Pattie Mallette, A. J. Gregory (2012). “Nowhere but Up: The Story of Justin Bieber's Mom”, p.242, Baker Books

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• Abusers thrive on creating confusion, including confusion about the abuse itself.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Creating, Confusion, Abuse

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.48, Penguin

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• Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.

  Herbert Ward

  Children, Abuse, Domestic Violence

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• Abusers are engineers and architects and janitors and police officers and any other walk of life. There's not a job or profession that is exempt.

  Kim Gandy

  Jobs, Police, Architect

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• I did not know that the first step in any domestic violence relationship is to seduce and charm the victim. I also did not know that the second step is to isolate the victim. The next step in the domestic violence pattern is to introduce the threat of violence and see how she reacts. We victims know something you [non-victims] usually don't. It's incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser, because the final step in the domestic violence pattern is to 'kill her'. Over 70% of domestic violence murders happens after the victim has ended the relationship.

  Leslie Morgan Steiner

  Domestic Violence, Next Steps, Finals

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• Few people are aware of the severe human rights violations committed daily by family court judges across the country. These courts are siding over and over again with proven sexual abusers of children and batterers of women. I wouldn't believe it myself if I hadn't done so much investigating.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Country, Children, Believe

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• Never believe a man's claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Believe, Men, Thinking

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.54, Penguin

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• We should hold abusers — and no one else — responsible for the damage they inflict.

  Leslie Morgan Steiner

  Damage, Responsible, Should

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• One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don't seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser's friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone's image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Kindness, Successful, Men

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• You are five times more likely to be killed by your abuser if your abuser can get their hands on a gun. That`s not a small problem.

  Melissa Harris-Perry

  Gun, Small Problems, Hands

  Source: www.msnbc.com

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• Marijuana is not addictive. People are the addicts and they will find a substance or a belief that will feed the addiction they need to make their day go away. Meaning one looks for a substance that allows them not to live with who and what they really are. To stop addiction we must treat the patient and stop blaming everyone and everything else but the abuser.

  Steven Machat

  Marijuana, People, Addiction

  "A Cannabis Crusader Brings The Fight For Legal Weed To America’s Heartland". Interview with Stacey Chillemi, www.huffingtonpost.com. July 31, 2016.

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• I don’t have any doubt in my mind that there will come a time when we will see violence against animal rights abusers.

  Jerry Vlasak

  Animal, Rights, Doubt

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• Just take them rascals [rapists, killers, child abusers] out in the swamp / Put 'em on their knees and tie 'em to a stump / Let the rattlers and the bugs and the alligators do the rest.

  Charlie Daniels

  Children, Ties, Killers

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• In my earliest of years, my mother was a huge force in my life. She was for all intents and purposes, a single parent. My father had abandoned us. He was an alcoholic and a physical abuser. My mother lived through that tyranny and made her living as a domestic worker. She was uneducated but she brought high principles and decent values into our existence, and she set lofty goals for herself and for her children. We were forever inspired by her strength and by her resistance to racism and to fascism.

  Harry Belafonte

  Mother, Children, Father

  Source: www.yesmagazine.org

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• Politicians are propaganda, the people with guns are the enforcers and the media is the enthusiastic lapdog who enables the entire behavior and acts as the verbal abuser against those who deviate from nodding their heads at the vast statues of evil that we inherited.

  Stefan Molyneux

  Gun, Media, People

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• The abuser knows where you work. Even if a woman goes underground at night, the abuser knows where to find her during the day.

  Gordon Campbell

  Night, Knows, Ifs

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• An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he's not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Believe, Responsibility, Giving

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.57, Penguin

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• The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to get worse as relationships get more serious. The more history and commitment that develop in the couple, the more the abuser comes to think of his partner as a prized object. Possessiveness is at the core of the abuser's mindset, the spring from which all the other streams spout; on some level he feels that he owns you and therefore has the right to treat you as he sees fit.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Couple, Spring, Commitment

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• There are certainly statistics which show that most people who become sociopaths, who become homicidal, who become child- abusers, have had a history of incredible suffering. This is what we call the transmission of family sin, in which these unconscious patterns get carried on for generations in a legacy of pain. When they are not brought to awareness and worked through, each generation just automatically enacts them.

  Connie Zweig

  Children, Pain, People

  Source: www.scottlondon.com

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• It is not possible to be truly balanced in one's views of an abuser and an abused woman. As Dr. Judith Herman explains eloquently in her masterwork Trauma and Recovery, “neutrality” actually serves the interests of the perpetrator much more than those of the victim and so is not neutral. Although an abuser prefers to have you wholeheartedly on his side, he will settle contentedly for your decision to take a middle stance. To him, that means you see the couple's problems as partly her fault and partly his fault, which means it isn't abuse.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Couple, Women, Mean

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.287, Penguin

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• As long as we see abusers as victims, or as out-of-control monsters, they will continue getting away with ruining lives. If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation.

  Lundy Bancroft

  Giving Up, Luxury, Long

  Lundy Bancroft (2003). “Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men”, p.157, Penguin

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• I use my work as catharsis. That's often the best thing that we can do, is to allow ourselves to rage because it's so rare that we get to. We're told to forgive - I don't want to! I don't want to forgive my abuser! I don't care to and I don't like that assumption that forgiveness makes me a better person. It's not authentic to me, my feelings and what I need. But everyone has their own way.

  Margaret Cho

  Feelings, Forgiving, Catharsis

  Source: nytlive.nytimes.com

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• We are all potential murderers, and we are all potential rapists and abusers.

  Volkmar Sigusch

  Murderer

  Source: www.spiegel.de

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