Louise J. Kaplan Quotes About Mothers

Quotes about: Mothers

• In every adult human there still lives a helpless child who is afraid of aloneness.... This would be so even if there were a possibility for perfect babies and perfect mothers.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Baby, Children

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Simon & Schuster

• Mothers tend to encourage their sons to run away and romp.... Mothers of little boys often complain that "There's no controlling him." "He's all over the place...." The complaints are tinged with more than a little pride at the boy's marvelous independence and masculine bravado. It's almost as though the mother enjoyed being overwhelmed by her spectacular conquering hero.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Running, Hero

• It is a human circumstance that when we are born we have not yet come into existence. We are lured into our special human existence by a mothering presence that gratifies our innate urges to be suckled, held, rocked, caressed. But that same gratifying presence puts limits on desire and rations satisfaction. In this sense the mother is also the first lawgiver.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Special, Desire

  Louise J. Kaplan (1995). “Adolescence: The Farewell to Childhood”, Touchstone Books

• The invisible bond that gives the baby rein to discover his place in the world also brings the creeping baby back to home base....In this way he recharges himself. He refuels on the loving energies that flow to him from his mother. Then he's off for another foray of adventure and exploration.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Baby, Home

• Normally an infant learns to use his mother as a "beacon of orientation" during the first five months of life. The mother's presence is like a fixed light that gives the child the security to move out safely to explore the world and then return safely to harbor.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Children, Moving

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Simon & Schuster

• Fathers have a special excitement about them that babies find intriguing. At this time in his life an infant counts on his motherfor rootedness and anchoring. He can count on his father to be just different enough from a mother. Fathers embody a delicious mixture of familiarity and novelty. They are novel without being strange or frightening.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Baby, Father

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Simon & Schuster

• Other people--grandparents, sisters and brothers, the mother's best friend, the next-door neighbor--get to be familiar to the baby. If the mother communicates her trust in these people, the baby will regard them as delicious novelties. Anybody the mother trusts whom the baby sees often enough partakes a bit of the presence of the mother.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Baby, Brother

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Touchstone

• As he walks away on his own two feet--the toddler's body-mind has reached its moment of perfection. The world is his and he the mighty conqueror of all he beholds.... As long as mother sticks around in the wings, the mighty acrobat confidently performs his trick of twirling in circles, walking on tiptoe, jumping, climbing, staring, naming. He is joyous, filled with his grandeur and wondrous omnipotence.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Omnipotence, Circles

• Hopefulness is the heartbeat of the relationship between a parent and child. Each time a child overcomes the next challenge of hislife, his triumph encourages new growth in his parents. In this sense a child is parent to his mother and father.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Children, Father

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Touchstone

• Paradoxically, the toddler's "No" is also a preliminary to his saying yes. It is a sign that he is getting ready to convert his mother's restrictions and prohibitions into the rules for behavior that will belong to him.

  Louise J. Kaplan

  Mother, Saying Yes, Toddler

  Louise J. Kaplan (1978). “Oneness and separateness: from infant to individual”, Touchstone

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