Meghan O'Rourke Quotes About Grief

Quotes about: Grief

• I wasn't prepared for the fact that grief is so unpredictable. It wasn't just sadness, and it wasn't linear. Somehow I'd thought that the first days would be the worst and then it would get steadily better - like getting over the flu. That's not how it was.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Sadness, Flu

  "Meghan O'Rourke: The Long Good-Bye". Interview with Jennifer Haupt, www.psychologytoday.com. April 26, 2011.

• Grief is a bad moon, a sleeper wave. It's like having an inner combatant, a saboteur who, at the slightest change in the sunlight, or at the first notes of a jingle for a dog food commercial, will flick the memory switch, bringing tears to your eyes.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Dog, Memories, Grief

• I believe in the importance of individuality, but in the midst of grief I also find myself wanting connection - wanting to be reminded that the sadness I feel is not just mine but ours.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Believe, Sadness

• But there is a discomfort that surrounds grief. It makes even the most well-intentioned people unsure of what to say. And so many of the freshly bereaved end up feeling even more alone.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, People, Feelings

• Grief is at once a public and a private experience. One's inner, inexpressible disruption cannot be fully realized in one's public persona.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Disruption, Persona

• This is part of the complexity of grief: A piece of you recognizes it is an extreme state, an altered state, yet a large part of you is entirely subject to its demands.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Pieces, Demand

• To mourn is to wonder at the strangeness that grief is not written all over your face in bruised hieroglyphics. And it's also to feel, quite powerfully, that you're not allowed to descend into the deepest fathom of your grief - that to do so would be taboo somehow.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Over You, Faces

• It's a blessing not to be alone in your grief but it's also painful to see your parents and siblings in pain.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Pain, Sibling, Grief

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

• Grief is characterized much more by waves of feeling that lessen and reoccur, it's less like stages and more like different states of feeling.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Feelings, Different

• Television has never known what to do with grief, which resists narrative: the dramas of grief are largely internal - for the bereaved, it is a chaotic, intense, episodic period, but the chaos is by and large subterranean, and easily appears static to the friendly onlooker who has absorbed the fact of loss and moved on.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Drama, Grief, Loss

• 'Hamlet' is a play about a man whose grief is deemed unseemly.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Men, Play

  "The Long Goodbye" by Meghan O'Rourke, www.slate.com. March 12, 2009.

• One of the difficulties with grief research is that it risks making certain kinds of grief seem normal and others abnormal - and of course having a sense of the contours of grief is, I think, truly useful, one has to remember it's not a science, it's an individual reckoning, which science is just trying to help us describe.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Thinking, Risk

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

• 'Hamlet' is the best description of grief I've read because it dramatizes grief rather than merely describing it.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Description, Describing

  "The Long Goodbye" by Meghan O'Rourke, www.slate.com. March 12, 2009.

• While I did a lot of research, I ended up feeling that the best way to write about grief was to describe it from the inside out - the show the strange intensities that come along with it, the peculiar thoughts, the longing for that past - all the strange moments of thinking you glimpse the dead person on the street, or in your dreams.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Dream, Grief, Writing

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

• If the condition of grief is nearly universal, its transactions are exquisitely personal.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Transactions, Universal

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.41, Penguin

• I have seen that grief can be very different for different people. While the range of emotions experienced is similar, the way we deal with those emotions isn't, necessarily.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, People, Different

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

• Much of Hamlet is about the precise kind of slippage the mourner experiences: the difference between being and seeming, the uncertainty about how the inner translates into the outer, the sense that one is expected to perform grief palatably. (If you don’t seem sad, people worry; but if you are grief-stricken, people flinch away from your pain.)

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Pain, Grief, Differences

  Meghan O'Rourke (2011). “The Long Goodbye: A Memoir”, p.80, Penguin

• I think that grief is a profound spiritual, metaphysical, and - oddly - physical reckoning with death, which we don't understand well. It's both the process by which you relearn the world in the absence of someone who was a pillar in it, and the process in which you confront the reality of death.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Spiritual, Grief, Reality

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

• One of the things about grief is that it can bring a deeper perspective into your life; in the end, it has, for me, though it's also brought sorrow.

  Meghan O'Rourke

  Grief, Perspective, Sorrow

  "Ask the Author Live: Meghan O'Rourke on Grief". Live chat, www.newyorker.com. March 2, 2011.

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