Child Rearing Quotes - Page 2

• Most advice on child-rearing is sought in the hope that it will confirm our prior convictions. If the parent had wished to proceedin a certain way but was made insecure by opposing opinions of neighbors, friends, or relatives, then it gives him great comfort to find his ideas seconded by an expert.

  Bruno Bettelheim

  Children, Insecure, Ideas

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• If it is to be done well, child-rearing requires, more than most activities of life, a good deal of decentering from one's own needs and perspectives. Such decentering is relatively easy when a society is stable and when there is an extended, supportive structure that the parent can depend upon.

  David Elkind

  Children, Perspective, Parent

  David Elkind (2009). “The Hurried Child, 25th anniversary edition”, p.26, Da Capo Press

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• No one who traces the history of motherhood, of the home, of child-rearing practices will ever assume the eternal permanence of our own way of institutionalizing them.

  Jessie Bernard

  Children, Home, Motherhood

  Jessie Bernard (1975). “The future of motherhood”, Penguin (Non-Classics)

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• Mothers have not always had the most important role in their children's upbringing, when they had other economic roles to play. Inpast centuries, fathers were the key parent in the upbringing of the next generation, because moral training, not emotional sensitivity, was thought to be central to successful child-rearing. Mothers were thought to corrupt their little ones with too much affection and not enough stern training.

  Sandra Scarr

  Mother, Children, Father

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• The authoritarian child-rearing style so often found in working-class families stems in part from the fact that parents see aroundthem so many young people whose lives are touched by the pain and delinquency that so often accompanies a life of poverty. Therefore, these parents live in fear for their children's future--fear that they'll lose control, that the children will wind up on the streets or, worse yet, in jail.

  Lillian B. Rubin

  Children, Pain, Wind

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• Fashions change, and with the new psychoanalytical perspective of the postwar period [WWII], child rearing became enshrined as thespecial responsibility of mothersany shortcoming in adult life was now seen as rooted in the failure of mothering during childhood.

  Sylvia Ann Hewlett

  Fashion, Children, Responsibility

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• A method of child-rearing is not--or should not be--a whim, a fashion or a shibboleth. It should derive from an understanding of the developing child, of his physical and mental equipment at any given stage, and, therefore, his readiness at any given stage to adapt, to learn, to regulate his behavior according to parental expectations.

  Selma Fraiberg

  Fashion, Children, Expectations

  Selma Fraiberg (1996). “The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood”, p.75, Simon and Schuster

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• What I object to is the hyper-fetishized wedding day, the prioritizing of wedding over marriage. I have a real problem with couples spending far more time discussing the seating arrangement or the color of the bridesmaid's gowns than hashing out, for instance, their feelings about how they intend to handle questions of housework, child-rearing, finances and fidelity for the next four or five decades.

  Elizabeth Gilbert

  Children, Couple, Real

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• We need to understand that we need to get the work-life balance better for both men and women - by men taking on more of those roles of homemaking and child rearing - it's an important area that we still haven't got right. I do worry; it's not just in the United States, it's also in parts of Latin America.

  Mary Robinson

  Children, Latin, Men

  Source: www.dailymaverick.co.za

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• We've learned that women can and should do 'men's jobs,' for instance, and we've won the principle (if not the fact) of getting equal pay. But we haven't yet established the principle (much less the fact) that men can and should do 'women's jobs': that homemaking and child-rearing are as much a man's responsibility, too, and that those jobs in which women are concentrated outside the home would probably be better paid if more men became secretaries, file clerks, and nurses, too.

  Gloria Steinem

  Jobs, Children, Home

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• Perhaps one reason that many working parents do not agitate for collective reform, such as more governmental or corporate child care, is that the parents fear, deep down, that to share responsibility for child rearing is to abdicate it.

  Faye J Crosby

  Children, Responsibility, Working Parents

  Faye J. Crosby (1993). “Juggling: the unexpected advantages of balancing career and home for women and their families”, Touchstone

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• The degree to which the child-rearing professionals continue to be out of touch with reality is astounding. For example, a widely read manual on breast-feeding, devotes fewer than two pages to the working mother.

  Sylvia Ann Hewlett

  Mother, Children, Reality

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• In the years of the Roman Republic, before the Christian era, Roman education was meant to produce those character traits that would make the ideal family man. Children were taught primarily to be good to their families. To revere gods, one's parents, and the laws of the state were the primary lessons for Roman boys. Cicero described the goal of their child rearing as "self- control, combined with dutiful affection to parents, and kindliness to kindred.

  C. Sommerville

  Christian, Children, Character

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• Wisdom is looking at life from God's point of view. You look at life's difficulties and tests as God looks at them. You look at family life and child rearing as God looks at them. You interpret current events as God would interpret them. You see the truth even though all around you are deception and lies.

  Charles R. Swindoll

  Children, Lying, Views

  Charles R. Swindoll (2007). “Great Days with the Great Lives: Daily Insight from Great Lives of the Bible”, p.270, Thomas Nelson

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• Only with maturity did I come to appreciate my own Chinese roots: not just the food and the ancient history, but also the philosophy of child-rearing and the respect for education and knowledge.

  Tess Gerritsen

  Children, Philosophy, Maturity

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• There is a trend in child-rearing that I find abhorrent: "Whatever the kids want to do is fine." For me, the classic example of this is when someone has a visitor and says, "Go kiss Aunt Gertrude," and Aunt Gertrude says, "She doesn't have to kiss me if she doesn't want to." Well, I think that's wrong.

  Marianne Williamson

  Children, Kids, Kissing

  Source: scottlondon.com

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• I think with motherhood and child-rearing in general, everyone's going to tell you how to do it and why. I've always said to other mothers and women when they've asked me, that you have to find your own way and find out what works for your family, at all costs.

  Brooke Burke

  Inspiring, Mothers Day, Children

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• We need to start talking about child-rearing in the workplace.

  Sheryl Sandberg

  Children, Talking, Needs

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• The fact is that child rearing is a long, hard job, the rewards are not always immediately obvious, the work is undervalued, and parents are just as human and almost as vulnerable as their children.

  Benjamin Spock

  Jobs, Children, Parenting

  Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman (2012). “Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care: 9th Edition”, p.5, Simon and Schuster

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• Today's mom watches her every child-rearing step lest she commit some egregious and apocalyptic parenting faux pas that will certainly doom her child to a life spent sleeping under overpasses, or worse, not going to Harvard.

  John Rosemond

  Mom, Children, Sleep

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• I suppose the most important thing, the heaviest single factor in one's life, is whether one's born male or female. In most societies it determines one's expectations, activities, outlook, ethics, manners - almost everything. Vocabulary. Semiotic usages. Clothing. Even food. Women... women tend to eat less... It's extremely hard to separate the innate differences from the learned ones. Even where women participate equally with men in the society, they still after all do all the childbearing, and so most of the child-rearing.

  Ursula K. Le Guin

  Children, Men, Vocabulary

  Ursula K. Le Guin (2012). “The Left Hand Of Darkness”, p.149, Hachette UK

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• In the classics section, she had picked up a copy of The Magic Mountain and recalled the summer between her junior and senior years of high school, when she read it, how she lay in bed hours after she should have gotten up, the sheet growing warmer against her skin as the sun rose higher in the sky, her mother poking her head in now and then to see if she'd gotten up yet, but never suggesting that she should: Eleanor didn't have many rules about child rearing, but one of them was this: Never interrupt reading.

  Elizabeth Berg

  Summer, Senior, Mother

  Elizabeth Berg (2009). “Home Safe: A Novel”, p.228, Random House

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• Women who work with animals hear this all the time: that their love for animals must arise out of a sublimated child-rearing urge. Ana's tired of the stereotype. She likes children just fine, but they're not the standard against which all other accomplishments should be measured. Caring for animals is worthwhile in and of itself, a vocation that need offer no apologies.

  Ted Chiang

  Children, Tired, Apology

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• I'm very lucky that my husband is a true partner in child-rearing. If I get home late, he gets home early or vice-versa. I travel more, and he's able to spell me when I'm gone.

  Bonnie Hammer

  Children, Husband, Home

  "Bonnie Hammer: She is Sci Fi". Interview with Porter Anderson, www.cnn.com. October 9, 2001.

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